I got a mail from a girl the other day. She wanted to know the signs of true love in a relationship. Since I just published a book on love and romance, I asked people to come to me with any sorts of issues they’re facing in love or life as a whole.
Now I am definitely not an expert but I just feel and think too loud, so I can really try to share the ideals and experiences if that helps. When it comes to true love or even love, there’s no one definition or symptom to it. True love can mean different things to different people based on their personalities, their values and their intellect.
So, what might seem like a true love to you can simply mean an infatuation to me. You may truly fall for a person who treats you like a lady. For me that might not be enough. I need him to be intellectual and deeply spiritual too at the same time. Now they say true love is unconditional and all that jazz. But expecting your love to have same values are not really conditions. Are they? That’s how souls connect. That’s how love happens. Mushy!
So I’d rather say whenever the right person comes along, you just know it. That’s true love for you. A person who’s graciously carved out of the same principles, values and ideas that you believe in. So, that’s obviously going to be different for all of us. However, there still are certain signs that are, more or less there, when it’s true love. Some of these signs for me would be:
Sheer trust in one another
When you’re with someone for real, you can’t help but trust them. This faith is larger than you. You just know that the person would never intentionally do you hurt. Both of you suddenly start thriving on ‘us against the world’ motto. You instantly become one and the faith in each other grows every second you spend together.
When it’s love, silence becomes as important as words. You just love the fact that you’re beside one another. That is entertaining enough for you. You could be engrossed in reading and he could be busy with his work. Or you could both be just sitting together and gazing at stars, without saying a word. It still calms your mind and soul with an unsaid comfort.
That’s kind of the key or one of the most significant signs of true love. Respect! A man or a woman may be ideal in all other aspects. But if they don’t respect you, you’re certainly in a toxic relationship. Now by respect I don’t mean he/she can’t be mad at you or argue with you. Those are emotions, which are so needed for a relationship to work. However, one should not do or say unhealthy things during a fight. Because we can only truly love someone if we respect them enough.
Help each other grow
Do you ever feel equally concerned about someone else’s goals and purpose in life, as you are for yours? That’s an incredible feeling. You don’t do it for show. You genuinely feel every ounce of it. Their dreams mean as much to you as your own. Watching them achieve their aim, makes you feel happy to the core. You try to help them become better person in every possible way.
Their hug is your home
‘You put me in your arms, and I’m home’. Well, that’s not just a song. If you’ve ever been in love in its purest form, you know that feeling. You could be stressed out for a gazillion reasons in the world. Just one cuddle from the one, and your soul is at peace. Just a touch of their body makes everything feel alright. You just wanna melt away with that feeling as it makes you feel complete and whole.
No pointless dramas or fights
Now again, this doesn’t mean there aren’t fights or arguments in a real relationship. Emotions and arguments are sort of inevitable in every relationship. But the reasons have to be right. They just feel right to both of you. Now getting mad for not replying back instantly or hanging out with other boys or girls are not so much of valid reasons. That’s more like obsession and not love. So you don’t feel the need to be arguing for petty issues anymore. They make you feel abundant that way.
Distance kills more than troubles
Many a times, the circumstances and the external factors become so overpowering that it becomes painful to hold onto. But when it’s real, quitting never comes as an option in your head. Not that you don’t take breaks or don’t leave one another alone for a minute. But losing them hurts far more than the situational troubles. So, the thought of leaving them never crosses your mind.
You could be a powerless, petite and timid girl. But when he drops into the picture, you are suddenly full of energy, strength and perseverance to fight any damn problem in the world. You feel there’s nothing you can’t conquer as long as you have him by your side.
Nobody compares or competes
This again is more important that I can possibly emphasize. The right person would never do anything that would make you feel like you’re in a competition with anyone else. Not even to make you jealous enough to drool over him. Because let’s face it, envy, jealousy, these aren’t healthy feelings. And someone who truly loves you would never put you in an unhealthy situation. They’ll always make you feel like you’re the only person they feel content having.
These signs of true love are meant for both the people in a relationship. If they’re one sided, it’s definitely not even close to love, let alone true love or whatever. So, when the right person or the right vibrations that would match your own, would come along, you’ll just know. Happy loving!
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